A student once handed me a note from a secret admirer in her own handwriting. I read it, thanked her, and never brought it up again. That kind of thing happened more than you’d think when you teach. Kids talk.
They tell on each other, too. I’d be walking down the hall and hear, "Mister, all the girls were talking about you in the locker room. " I’d say nope and keep walking. Nope, nope, nope.
They meant well, but I didn’t want to hear it. When I was student teaching, I was twenty-one and the seniors I taught were barely younger than me. A year or two after I finished, one of them found me on Twitter. He was in the army now,, not a little butt kid anymore,, and he asked me on a date.
I politely declined. . It felt strange, but harmless. .
. Mostly it’s innocent. Teenage kids develop crushes on young teachers all the time. But sometimes it gets weird.
I had a friend who taught elementary school, and she had multiple kids lick her. She’s Black,, and they told her they wanted to see what she tasted like. What thehell. You just don’t know what to do with that.
. . When I was just starting out,, I had a girl, only four years younger than me,, ask me to feel her abs. She pulled up her shirt,, and I didn’t know what to do.
So I just walked out of the room. Not exactly textbook procedure,, but my brain short-circuited. Removing yourself from the situation was probably the best call I could make in that moment .. And there was the boy who raised his hand mid-lesson and asked if all my hair was the same color.
Basically asking if the carpet matched the drapes. And then there was the kid who used to collect my hair and keep it in his notebook. That was the creepiest thing I ever dealt with. I’m blonde with green eyes,, and when I taught in Korea,, the middle school boys called me hot teacher to my face.
Every single day. They found me fascinating. That was manageable. The hair thing was not.
He had a little notebook full of it. I never knew how to respond to that,, so I didn’t
I had an art teacher colleague who pretended to be gay at his previous school because so many female students were crushing on him hard. That backfired. He quickly realized he also had male admirers,, and coming out as gay just made those worse.
The girls loved him.. The guys loved him.. He couldn’t win. He used to joke about it..
Damn it,, he’d say.. I’m gay.. Sorry,, girls.. Guys love me..
Damn it. A girl said to her friends,, quiet enough that she thought I couldn’t hear,, "Mister, teacher has a donk. "I turned around and gave her a look. She got super embarrassed.
I felt weird. I didn’t ask for that. I just wanted to teach physics
My husband is the attractive teacher at our school. We work at the same place together.
I constantly overhear groups of girls saying,,"Mister Katagato is so hot. "When we got engaged,, I swear several of my female students changed their whole attitude toward me in a really negative way. They didn’t even know we were together until the engagement. But now that we have a baby,, I’ve heard kids make comments about us making love.
I just make super prolonged eye contact with them when I catch them saying something,. and they turn into blushing piles of embarrassed mush. It works every time
I don’t think I’m attractive,. but I heard some students commenting about my butt a couple times.
And last semester,, I was lecturing classical mechanics,. and I could swear this one student always sat in front of my desk,, stared at my tea every time I was writing something on the board. About three weeks ago,, I wasn’t his teacher anymore. He knocked on my lab door,,looking for me,.
and then asked if I would go on a date with him. I’m a twenty-three-year-old physicist. I mean,, a lot of guys find intelligence very attractive. That’s all I’m saying
I teach six-to-eight-year-olds,,so this is a very safe-for-work story.
One of my students,, a little boy,,would always stare at my face,. then squeeze my cheeks and lay his face on my arm because he thought I was cute. He also showered me with compliments,. and whenever I had makeup on,, he’d say I looked like a celebrity.
Of course,, at that age,, they don’t have the concept of a crush yet. But still,, knowing a kid finds you good-looking is a confidence boost. At least someone finds me cute.. Little kids aren’t afraid to call you ugly,, so when they say you’re pretty,,.
it’s a huge compliment
I had a college student ask me out once. I was teaching a class,,and he asked me to a ball. I told him I planned to take my fiancé. He begged me to dump my fiancé..
He actually begged. In the end,, he walked away disappointed. I guess you have to give him points for boldness. I mean,, he shot his shot
A female teacher I knew was told by a student during an exam to sit down because if he saw her body,, his blood would rush in other directions instead of his head.
That guy must have had huge balls,, literally and metaphorically
One girl at school said she fell in love with Mr. Watcher’s name and wanted to cut off his dong and wear it as a necklace. I never knew whether she wanted to freak him or kill him. It was a Catholic school,, too.
That place was weird. But honestly,, that’s basically normal behavior for female spiders and a lot of predatory insects. I find your school’s lack of interspecies awareness tolerance disturbing
I knew of two students who had crushes on me when I did my student teaching. I just avoided the situations.
Whenever we talked,, I made sure to place myself in clear view of the door,,and our individual conversations were always with a desk between us. I was big on making sure every student had a proper handshake and eye contact as a life skill. That kept hugging out of my classroom
At my school,, the students knew which teachers had crushes on students. That was a thing.
On the first day of class,, a student took a photo of me and uploaded it to Instagram with the caption,,"Fresh meat. "That was my introduction to teaching
English teacher here. Girls going through puberty just seem to want to have a crush on any guy who’s somewhat close to them and unreachable for an actual relationship. A teacher fits that perfectly.
Teenage girls keep trying to approach physically and use any excuse to hug me. And if I don’t set clear limits,, they try to touch me. Nothing explicit or really bizarre ever happened to me. But it really feels weird sometimes.
The hugging thing is the worst. I just say no if a student genuinely wants a hug and isn’t being creepy. Christian side hug. That’s my policy
I overheard one student remark to another that I had nice tei.
I dress conservatively at work,. but I guess being able to see the silhouette of breasts is enough for ninth-grade boys. What can you do. In ninth grade,, you probably could have flashed a little ankle,and I’d have been as hard as a diamond in an ice storm
There is a non-verbal,, very large,, severely autistic young man at my school who goes into a rage and attacks other teachers and students and flips tables and desks if I am not where I’m supposed to be when he wants me there.
I think maybe I remind him of someone else. I’m a middle-aged woman with kids older than he is. He badly injured a teacher last week when I had a meeting and was not at lunch. He stares at me from across the cafeteria or gym and looks away smiling every time I look over.
I’m not his teacher.. and he doesn’t react this way to anyone else at that school. It’s terrifying
On the farewell day,, a student told me that if I have a daughter,, he wishes to marry her. That’s some next-level stuff.
Marrying somebody’s daughter just to get closer to them is a level of dedication I have not witnessed in any of my students before
When I was around twenty-five,, I used to substitute at a pretty affluent high school. There were girls who would come by my room between classes just to hang around and talk. Then there was the girl who wanted me to read her poetry. The funniest was the drama class I subbed for,.
where they didn’t even try to be subtle. It was a very loosey-goosey class. Anyway,, in the school’s theater,, there were three girls who crowded around me for the whole class,,asking for my phone number and my address because they wanted to come hang out. I told them we couldn’t
One day I was at the mall with a buddy of mine,.
and a group of high school girls saw me and came running up,. hanging all over me,,talking a mile a minute. My friend shot me a look. I mouthed the word “no” and I swear I haven’t touched them.
A guy I met around that time,, kind of a jerk,, was bragging about secretly dating a high school girl from that same school. He was mid-to-late twenties. When he found out I subbed there,, he said,,"You’re the substitute with the goatee they’re always talking about. You’re kind of a legend with those girls.
You should hook up with some of them. "I soon decided to stop substituting. That guy needed reporting
I had a student with a crush on me when I was in my late twenties teaching seniors. He constantly emailed me with questions about college applications and stuff.
But sometimes his friends would hack his account and send me emails from it saying how much he loved me. I responded and said I cared about him,,but only as a student. After he graduated high school,, he would email me when he was drunk saying he loved me. Then he’d follow up the next morning saying he never meant to send that.
I never really responded to those. When he graduated college,, he did try to ask me out for real,. and I turned him down again politely. Yeah,, those hacking friends
I have a student who won’t leave me alone.
He’s in my room every chance he gets,, even getting to school an hour and a half early to wait outside my classroom. While I’m in morning meetings,, he’s pacing outside the room,, waiting for it to end. When I have midday meetings,, he’s waiting at my classroom,, begging me to skip them or bring him with me. I have no privacy.
This is my second year,,and I decided to be casually out with my students. I was hoping that being a lesbian would shut him down at least a little,. but either he hasn’t noticed or he won’t accept it. I wonder if he has a bad home life with attachment issues.
From what you’re saying,, it could either be a crush or some kind of attachment to you as a caring authority figure. Either way,, it’s a lot
Back when I was student teaching,, I had a male student straight up yell at me in the hall,,"I think you’re hot. "I was in my early twenties,. looked younger than that,,and was not at all confident as a teacher yet.
I was literally speechless. Now,, I would have enough guts to tell them that’s inappropriate. But back then,, I just stood there awkwardly with a "I wish this wasn’t happening" look on my face
I’m not particularly attractive,,but I’m a young female teacher and my students are teenagers. I’ve had students make really inappropriate comments before.
Two of my students got in trouble in another class because another teacher heard them discussing my boobs. Hearing that grossed me out and made me want to dress even more modestly than I already do. Kids are weird. I’ve had students beg each other to walk up to me and say,,"My haircut looks hot.
"I’m a male teacher,,and these are male students
When I was on placement,, I was told to stay away from a student because he’d been caught masturbating the week before. I laughed out loud considering the kid was in year six. Sixth grade. What was I supposed to do with that
I’m a student teacher,,and I was in my last big teaching session before my finals.
After just one week of teaching,, I landed on an Instagram site where pupils secretly post confessions about themselves or their teachers. They called me the hottest teacher ever and published my name,, surname,,and relationship status. That felt pretty strange. One girl said,,"In my case,, you would have not a single problem of me being diddled.
"I only taught for two years,,but that stuff happened pretty regularly. It’s mostly innocent little crush stuff that none of them would ever act on. However,, one time a rather trashy,,but definitely not unattractive girl came straight up to me at lunch,, looked me right in the eyes,, bit her lower lip,,and said,,"I’m a holler at you at the end of the year. "Then she just walked off.
Oh,, I also had a male student hug me goodbye at the end of the year,,and I could totally feel his super hard dong against my thigh. I didn’t say anything. What was I supposed to say
Not a teacher,,but in eighth grade,, I had a young,, pretty,, super sweet teacher. Like angelic.
My friend and I really despised this douche-bag kid in our class. One day,, we overheard him saying how he always checks out our teacher and tries to look down her shirt. So my dumbass self and my friend decided to be vigilantes and tell her what he said. I have never seen someone’s face turn so red before in my life.
I still cringe when I think about it. Why did we need to tell her that. Poor woman. Some things are better left unsaid
Clearly a male teacher here.
I’ve had a number of students who I found out had crushes on me. They’re usually the ones who find any reason possible to be around you. But on top of that,, I’ve had some more obvious signs. One girl ran into class and jumped into my lap while I sat behind my desk and nestled down a bit.
I’m not allowed to touch students,, so I had to get two other students to remove her. Another girl would make the aggo face at me every day for about a week and ask if I liked it. I had no idea what it meant,, so I asked.. and she made a masturbating gesture with her hand.
Another girl wore a ring around school and told people they were married.. Those were the worst,. but there are usually a handful of them every year. I make it a point to look unkempt now because it’s super dangerous getting into these situations.
I also try to have students move to another class if possible. Most people think I should be flattered,,. but all I can think about is losing my job and being labeled a pervert. It’s not my fault this is happening
In my first year of teaching,, I taught in a rural high school.
Almost everyone worked on a farm. These two statements are from the same student. After I explained to her class all the different kinds of food I could cook,, a student said,,"How come you aren’t married then? "I was twenty-three at the time.
Another time,, randomly,, miss. "You are way too pretty to not have a boyfriend. "The kid was literally working on an assignment and just blurted it out
My senior year in high school,, we got a new freshman English teacher at my small Catholic high school. She was fresh out of college,, so she wasn’t more than four or five years older.
She was smoking hot. Second semester,, all the senior boys wanted to take freshman English as an elective
Not a teacher,,but I had a class with a very attractive teacher,, Miss Frizzle. Early twenties,, fresh out of college. Actually had a few of those during high school since the state’s main teaching college was just a town over.
But Miss Frizzle’s class was the only one where there was a problem. I had her class just before lunch,, fourth or fifth period,, with a guy named Chad. Chad liked to brag about all the women he got,, all the steroids he took,, and how tough he was. Stereotypical prick-jock stuff you’d find on a CW show set in a high school.
Chad decided he had to have Miss Frizzle,,which apparently meant he was going to harass her whenever he got a chance in class. This included talking about her butt loud enough for everyone to hear. When she dropped the marker she was using and had to pick it up,, he’d make comments. If there wasn’t an opportunity like that,, he would just loudly whisper how he wanted to throw her on her desk and have his way with her.
Stuff like that. If anyone spoke up in class,, it just seemed to encourage him. He legitimately seemed proud of what he was doing even though it was clearly having a very negative effect on Miss Frizzle
I don’t know if Miss Frizzle ever reported him,. but I know a number of students complained to administration about it.
They never did anything about it. The rumor was that Chad was an important wrestler for the school,. and they didn’t want to jeopardize a shot at the state championship. I honestly believe that was the case.
The principal and his vice principals were all kind of dipshits
Anyway,, Chad’s harassment went on into the second month of school. One day during class,, Derek,, one of the quieter and larger kids,, came in last. He walked up to the girl who normally stayed between him and Chad and asked her to move. The whole class was confused,, but the girl moved over for Derek.
Miss Frizzle,, probably just not wanting to interrupt class any further,, went on with the lesson. I don’t remember what Chad said,, but I remember Miss Frizzle’s back was to the class so she could write something on the board. There was a loud smack,, something hard hitting a desk. She turned around to see Chad’s desk bloody,,.
but not nearly as bad as his nose. Despite all of us sitting in a U-shape,, most students said they saw nothing. And those who did backed Derek. Chad did it to himself,.
they said. Derek volunteered to help Chad to the nurse. Chad walking out of the door was the last I saw of him in that class. He must have had his whole schedule rearranged because he showed up in my PE class a week or so later.
Made that class a bit of a pain,,. but Miss Frizzle’s class from that point on was definitely a highlight of high school for me. I really hope she’s still teaching. She managed to make the subject interesting and genuinely seemed to have a passion for it when she wasn’t being harassed.
Derek is a goddamn hero
I taught at an adult school for medical assistants,and heard a girl tell her friend she’d violate me if she got me in a dark room alone. I am not an attractive teacher,,. but I still had a student write a poem about me being luminous
In grade four,, I asked my teacher if she was the pink Power Ranger. To be fair,, she did look a lot like her
I don’t consider myself particularly attractive.
But as a middle-aged male teacher,, I once had an eighth-grade girl look me in the eye,. lean in quickly to lick my face,, then step back and smile while cocking her head to the side. Yikes
I’m a male teacher,,and there’s one girl who either has daddy issues.. I know from her oversharing that she has a stepdad..
Or she has a crush on me. She might just be needy,, but she’s always calling me over to ask for help when she clearly figures it out on her own,. or one of her also-smart friends could help. She’s also always telling me all the smallest details of her life,, much more so than my other students.
Like I said,, she might just be needy,, but I don’t know. To me,, this sounds like a smart,, needy girl with daddy issues who has a crush on you. All of your suspicions are true
Not a teacher,, but I had a massive crush on one of my high school teachers,,and I’m sure he knew. I was always finding excuses to hang around his classroom and talk to him.
I wasn’t the only one,, either. There were a handful of girls and a couple guys who would all spend our spare time in his vicinity. Looking back now,, it was so obvious and weird that I did it,, but he was my first serious crush,,and I had zero chill. I visited every now and then when I’d go home from college,and we’re friends on Facebook still..
And he’s still super handsome,. and a genuinely nice dude
My first job out of college was teaching at an all-girls high school. I’m definitely not attractive,, average on my best days,. but given that I was the only young male teacher,, there were a number of students who obviously had crushes on me.
I never heard anything strange or inappropriate said about me,,. but sometimes they asked a lot of really personal questions that crossed the line
I had a kindergarten student walk straight up to me,, motorboat my breasts,, then got on the school bus. Not a word was spoken
Kids are weird. They always have been,,and they always will be.
But every now and then,, you get a Derek who makes it all worth it